Are Christians taking care of business?

So many scandals and tragedies are going on amongst the body of Christ. My heart is just sad. I realize it's all a sign of the times but we still have our duties and obligations. My questions are as follows: Can Christian's really share their deepest, darkest secrets and get help when needed from other Christians without being judged? Are we taking care of our brother's/sister's as the Bible has commanded us to do? Are we so involved in our own personal lives that we are overlooking the hurting people? Have we just become so good at hiding our issues? So often we would like to share with someone but the fear of being exposed, losing title(s), criticism, separation, etc. cause us to just shut down and keep it all inside. And then, when we share some of our hurt and misfortune or just plain testing, we receive the same response of, 'I'll be praying for you'. Don't get me wrong, I truly believe in the power of prayer. However, many times we use this line to get people to leave us alone or to prevent us from moving and doing anything else. Yes, according to James 5:16; the effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Bu,t if you hear I am hungry, feed me and then pray that I stay full! If I am sick, get me some medicine and then lay hands! If I am in the dark, provide light and then pray that the light remains. I can't hear your prayer when I am broke, busted and disgusted! If you know I am dealing with drugs, sexual demons, a jezebel spirit, a jealous spirit or an alcohol addiction..get me some help!!! And follow up to see what is going on! We are responsible one for another. As quiet as it's kept, no addict wants to be one and all addictions are still addictions! I think we fail to realize that the human body and mind is only capable of handling so much. Even saved bodies and minds..those that are in Christ STILL struggle with something! We all have our load limit and yet, we have been commanded to love our neighbor as ourselves. Do we really do this? Do we really know what it means? Our foreparents were able to look at you and tell you what was going on with you. They would pray until deliverance took place. No person was left behind. No one was left alone. Which brings me to my last question, whatever happened to spiritual discernment? How are we missing so much when it's happening right in our homes? In our schools? In our neighborhoods? And most definitely in our churches? The world takes care of the worldly but Christians overlook each other. When will the church be the church God is looking for? How long can this last? We can't go on like this.